*** User362 *** 09/20/2006 24:43 EDT ***
It is a fact that you recall about 86% of what you see, but only 13%
of what you hear. That's why you often recognize people's faces, but
cannot remember their names. For Rush, it is extremely important that
you make an extended effort to remember names. People are impressed
that you remember their name, and feel that you are indeed interested
in talking with them and hearing what they have to say. Here is one
technique that can help to improve this skill...
When shaking hands you should not release until you know and repeat the
person's name. Also, you should immediately follow up with a sentence
using their name, if at all possible.
For example...
Brother: Hi, my name is Bill.
(shake hands...)
Rushee: Hi, I'm Steve.
Brother: Great to meet you, Steve.
(release handshake)
Brother: Steve, I hear you are a pretty big Baseball fan...
(or)
Brother: Steve, thanks for coming to the barbecue. I hope you like steak!...
You should use the person's name frequently in the first minute or two of
meeting. This will help you remember not only their name, but also their face.
If you just shake hands and exchange names, you will likely never remember.
It's important to say just a few more words to help make a more permanent
impression of their name and face. Oh yeah, you should look at the person when
you use their name, not at the ground or at the sky.
Lastly, once you know their name, it is so much more impressive to
introduce the person to other brothers.
For example...
Brother: Hey Mark, I'd like you to meet Steve.
Steve's a huge baseball fan like yourself.
(Brother Mark & Steve shake hands...)
Rushee: Hey
Brother Mark: Nice to meet you, Steve.
(release handshake)
Brother Mark: So you like baseball? Do you play?....
*** User362 *** 09/20/2006 24:47 EDT ***
On the flip side, it is entirely embarassing and awkward if you forget
someone's name right after meeting them, and a new brother joins the two
of you. It almost sends the wrong message that you aren't interested
in the person, even enough to register their name. It rises almost to the
point of disrespect.
*** User362 *** 09/20/2006 24:57 EDT ***
If you cannot remember a rushee's name, it is much more difficult
to invite them to events personally and keep them interested in
Theta Chi. If they are kept interested, they will come to more
events and more brothers will be able to meet them and decide if
they are excellent prospects for Rush. So, remembering names
is the first important step to being cordial and making friends.
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